Dear my younger self,
You are a beauty - your chubby cheeks and mushroom inspired hair cut just adds to the cuteness. You're rockin it. Your hair will eventually grow out and you will lose your baby fat but you will always be just as beautiful.
Carry that belief with you all the way through life and never ever let it go (there will be moments when you feel like you're hanging on for dear life – be sure to keep a firm grip). Worrying is waste of time. Stop worrying if you're pretty enough. If you're thin enough. If you're smart enough. If you're strong enough. You ARE enough. Exactly as you are. Comparisons will destroy you if you let them. It's not just the thief of joy but the thief of absolutely everything! Just because you haven't gone to University, found the man of your dreams or walked The Great Wall of China yet doesn't mean you've failed. You've got time. Be proud of your own accomplishments, even if they look different to someone else's. No one's life is as perfect as their Instagram feed and everyone is fighting their own battles. Be kind.
One Christmas, your parents are going to buy you a brown bike when you really wanted a pink one. When you walk into the living room and see it in the corner of your eye, run over to Mum and Dad and give them the biggest cuddle that you have ever given. Be grateful for what you have and realise how lucky you are to have two loving parents. Be grateful for your Dad's insane eggy bread on a Sunday morning!! If there is an opportunity to make your mum a cup of tea, take it. If there is an opportunity to give your sisters a hug, squeeze them SO tight until they yell at you to get off. Family is everything.
Life is too short for shitty coffee, shitty boys and shitty friends. You'll come across people in your life that you swear are the real deal. They're not. They're fakes. You got given Pepsi in a restaurant when you asked for a Coke if ya hearing what I'm saying. Don't be bitter towards these people and don't be angry towards the memories that they gave you. It's silliness to regret anything that once made you happy. It's going to hurt when you lose someone and it's going to take time for the pain to lessen...but it will! There are plenty of fish in the sea (fish that can take you on fabulous first dates but also fish that make amazing new friends). When someone loves you, they will make sure that you are part of their lives. Don't ask for them to stay when they're heading for the door – get there before and open it for them. The BEST people in your life will appear when you're least expecting it and under pretty weird circumstances.
Not everyone gets to travel the easy road to their dreams. Some of us will be forced to ride a rollercoaster before we can eventually see the hills. The way I like to look at it is this…when you’re on a rollercoaster it can be scary. Being the drama queen that you are, you'll scream, shout, swear and demand to get off. When it’s over though, you will want to ride it all over again and can look at the experience differently. The rollercoaster makes us feel braver and more than prepared to take on the next ride that awaits. The key is just to ride it through! Know that everything that hurts you is temporary and only lasts for a short while. The healing process unfortunately take a little longer so just be patient with yourself. If being at a standstill for a few months is what it takes to have a life full of hope and happiness, it's what you need to do. Don't rush it!
Here's the thing, Beth. If you spend your whole life believing that you don't deserve anything more than what life hands you, you'll spend your life a blubbering mess. I'm sorry to tell you this, but you're an ugly crier. Smiles are contagious so keep those pearly whites on show as much as possible (always brush and floss twice a day!). Here's to an incredible future...one that you really do deserve! You've got this girl. I believe in YOU.
Lots of love as always x
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