If you follow me on Twitter, you will have seen that last Monday I took part in my first ever Twitter rant! It was sparked from a tweet I saw earlier on in that day that pushed my extra sensitive buttons (fyi - time of the month). To get straight to the point, someone posted a tweet that was pretty harsh and very clearly written about me. Anyone would think we were still in high school! A few months ago this would have sent me flying into a massive heap of self doubt and panic but luckily, I'm in a stronger position now with a more rational head on my shoulders. This time, instead of convincing myself that they were right (that i am a shitty excuse for a human), i tried really hard to look at their actions as a fault in their character instead of mine.
The way people treat you only defines the type of the person they are.
When someone tries to roast you for being you, shower them in pity instead of giving them the delight of seeing you sad. When I actually come to think of it, I have never come across a nasty person who isn't riddled with insecurities. Bless them! How horrible must it feel to be that insecure about yourself, that the only time you ever feel satisfaction is when you're making others dislike themselves too.
When i feel particularly anxious and need to calm myself down, i start by seeing my thoughts for what they are. A thought is just a thought - nothing more and nothing less. The only way it can become something more powerful is if I fuel it with the power. Similarly, people can make nasty comments, but unless we give them the power to hurt and upset us, that's all they will forever be - a worthless opinion. I understand it's so much easier said than done, so that is why i will say this: to all those people who find it necessary to be unkind and quite frankly an absolute bell - if you have nothing kind to say, don't say anything. Words hurt. It only takes a matter of seconds to post a tweet, but sometimes it can take years to repair the damage!
I have been a people pleaser all my life and can often worry myself silly that I'm not making others happy. It can only take a customer assistant to ignore me whilst they're scanning through my Tesco meal deal and I'm in a full blown frenzy, convinced I've done something wrong to upset them. On top of that, I'm a hormonal, insecure 21 year old girl.... of course i let that tweet get to me. I had a meltdown and desperately wanted to pour myself a double G&T at half 10 in the morning. After a good old cry, I opted for a cuppa instead (well done me) and remembered my worth!! I'm not a shitty person. I am a good person who cares about people's feelings. Good people rise by lifting other people UP, not down. I'm far too busy now enjoying my life and spending time with people who love me; life's too short to waste time getting upset about the irrelevant people who don't.
"Lions don't lose sleep over the opinions of sheep!"
In the wise words of Rihanna, don't let the bastards get ya down!
Lots of love as always,
Beth x
P.s. the photos were taken last Saturday when we celebrated my 21st - the most fun I've had in a long time! Forever thanking my lucky stars for the best friends ever!
The way people treat you only defines the type of the person they are.
When someone tries to roast you for being you, shower them in pity instead of giving them the delight of seeing you sad. When I actually come to think of it, I have never come across a nasty person who isn't riddled with insecurities. Bless them! How horrible must it feel to be that insecure about yourself, that the only time you ever feel satisfaction is when you're making others dislike themselves too.
When i feel particularly anxious and need to calm myself down, i start by seeing my thoughts for what they are. A thought is just a thought - nothing more and nothing less. The only way it can become something more powerful is if I fuel it with the power. Similarly, people can make nasty comments, but unless we give them the power to hurt and upset us, that's all they will forever be - a worthless opinion. I understand it's so much easier said than done, so that is why i will say this: to all those people who find it necessary to be unkind and quite frankly an absolute bell - if you have nothing kind to say, don't say anything. Words hurt. It only takes a matter of seconds to post a tweet, but sometimes it can take years to repair the damage!
I have been a people pleaser all my life and can often worry myself silly that I'm not making others happy. It can only take a customer assistant to ignore me whilst they're scanning through my Tesco meal deal and I'm in a full blown frenzy, convinced I've done something wrong to upset them. On top of that, I'm a hormonal, insecure 21 year old girl.... of course i let that tweet get to me. I had a meltdown and desperately wanted to pour myself a double G&T at half 10 in the morning. After a good old cry, I opted for a cuppa instead (well done me) and remembered my worth!! I'm not a shitty person. I am a good person who cares about people's feelings. Good people rise by lifting other people UP, not down. I'm far too busy now enjoying my life and spending time with people who love me; life's too short to waste time getting upset about the irrelevant people who don't.
"Lions don't lose sleep over the opinions of sheep!"
In the wise words of Rihanna, don't let the bastards get ya down!
Lots of love as always,
Beth x
P.s. the photos were taken last Saturday when we celebrated my 21st - the most fun I've had in a long time! Forever thanking my lucky stars for the best friends ever!
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