It's Ok Not To Be Ok!

This week has been a bit of a shitty week. I say a bit…I take it back. This week has been a shitty week. I want this blog to be a space where people can escape from the chaos that comes hand in hand with life sometimes and I always will try my best to spread positivity and hope. However, I never want to set this false perception that life is always sunshine, rainbows and anything else sprinkled in glitter, because, well, it’s not.
I bet we’ve all heard comments like 'smile, life could be a lot worse' or 'you have an amazing life, you’ve got no reason to be sad’. I bet we’ve all also wanted to punch whoever said that to us in the face. I swear I’m not usually an aggressive person (honest, it's true) but oh my god, really!? All I want is someone to cry with whilst helping me devour a large, stuffed crust Domino’s pizza... not tell me that my reasons aren’t justified for me to be sad. Is that really too much to ask for!? I'd even pay for the takeaway.

Sadness is something we all experience. It’s normal. Sadness is what happens when you fail an exam. It is what happens when you fall out with your best friend. It’s what happens when events crop up in life that are hurtful and hard to deal with. Whatever the reason, it is COMPLETELY justified! You sit and be sad for however long you need! Just remember though that sadness is not constant and it does pass! It doesn’t last forever.

I think the important thing is to hold on to those moments of happiness that occur amongst your shitty days. For example, picture the scene….you’re pouring your heart out whilst crying on your best friend’s shoulder...but this is suddenly interrupted by a period of laughter after she cracks a joke about how ugly she always thought your loser of an ex-boyfriend was anyway. Look, you’re laughing! You have this smile on your face that lights up the room. You didn’t think you would be happy again for a very long time, but here you are, smiling! Who cares if it lasts for ten minutes? Who cares if it only lasts even just for a fraction of a second before your eyes fill up with tears again. The only thing that matters is that you hold on extra tight to that moment of happiness, however short lived it may have been. That moment was your glimpse of hope that is letting you know that everything, in time, is going to be just fine!

So, I’m not going to tell you all to have a lovely day/week if you’re feeling shitty and just generally down in the dumps. Instead, I’m just going to tell you to keep going. You’ve survived a lot already (everything you once thought you would never get through) and you’re going to survive a lot more….so go and SMASH IT!

Lots of love as always,
Beth x

P.s. I'm sorry if I've come across as Miss Negative Nancy- I just want to be as real and genuine with you all as possible!